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    Seek, Share, Serve
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    Becoming Christlike
    Andy & Kim Harrison
    (Developing the character of Christ)
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    for Life After High School
    Compiled by Dwayne Ulmer
    & Dwayne McCrary
    (13 Sessions)
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    LifeTrak (Older Youth)
    (13 Sessions, Pub. Quarterly)
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    How Now Shall We Live?
    Charles Colson & Nancy Pearcey
    (8 Sessions)

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    Right Choices
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    The Mind of Christ
    T. W. Hunt & Claude V. King
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    Avery T. Willis
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    Share Jesus Without Fear
    William Fay & Ralph Hodge
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    Jesus On Leadership
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    C. Gene Wilkes
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    Vital Truth
    (24 books, 4 sessions each)

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    Search for Significance
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    When God Speaks
    Henry & Richard Blackaby
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    Experiencing God
    Henry Blackaby
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    Survival Kit
    for Youth
    Ralph W. Neighbor, Jr.
    (11 Sessions)
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    The Student God Uses
    Henry & Tom Blackaby
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    Vital Truth
    (24 books, 4 sessions each)
    A farmer cultivates the seed so that it may grow.
    He takes great care of it, protects it, nourishes it,
    etc. Through all of his efforts, his vision is not on
    the seed, but upon what the seed will become. This
    is an excellent comparison to keep in mind as you cultivate, care for,
    and train the disciples in your group. Ask the Lord to give you vi-
    sion for what each of your students will
    . He is so faithful to
    let you see, if you ask Him. He already sees the finished result: their
    perfection in Christ. You need to “see” this, too. This will be the
    very thing that will help you to continue cultivating on the days
    when you feel like your labor is in vain. The farmer does not see an
    ear of corn the day after he plants the seed. He continually gives the
    basics for the life, the growth and the fruit of the seed, day after day,
    week after week. And finally he reaps the harvest. As a Discipler
    you will want to continue to give love, discipline, patience, kindness,
    etc. over and over again.
    “...for in due time we shall reap if we do
    not grow weary.”
    (Galatians 6:9)
    In following the Lord’s example of initiating a rela-
    tionship with us through His Son, we are to model
    His example by being initiators in relationships.
    This is especially true of the relationship between
    the Discipler and the students in his or her group.
    For example, when you happen to see a student who is in your
    group, don’t wait for him to come and say, “Hi.” You be the first
    one to go up to him. If the student misses a Discipleship meeting,
    don’t wait for her to come to you, go to her. Make sure you are also
    taking the initiative in doing fun things with the student in your
    group as well. Look for opportunities to get on their turf. If he
    plays football, go watch him play in a game. If she likes to go shop-
    ping, take her shopping. Go to where they are, instead of waiting
    for them to come to where you are. Do not think of taking the ini-
    tiative as a one time effort. Continue to make phone calls. Con-
    tinue to send encouraging notes. Continue to set up times to meet
    even if they skip their one-on-ones. (It will happen) Decide now on
    your role as an initiator for the whole year, regardless of whether or
    not they
    initiate anything with you.

    Communication is essential in building relation-
    ships. Learn to be the kind of communicator that
    puts others at ease to communicate with you. Ask
    good questions. Be a good listener, even if what
    they talk about seems trivial to you. Do not make the student, who
    For all your words of wisdom, remember that hu-
    mility is the best teacher. Let the students in your
    group know that you are a disciple , too. (The word
    disciple means “learner.”) Place more emphasis on
    what God is teaching
    , rather than on what you
    think you need to teach
    . They are learning much more from
    what you do than from what you say. For example, let them know
    how your Bible Study is speaking to you. Let them see you work-
    ing on Scripture Memory. Let them see your burden for lost peo-
    ple. Let them see your heart. If you visit a nursing home, take one
    of your students with you. You ma never be the Bible Study
    Leader in your church. You may never teach a Sunday School
    Class. But your youth are watching you, and they are learning form
    you. There are so many ways that you can teach without ever for-
    mally “teaching.” Remember, Jesus took the disciples with Him
    when he ministered to the sick. They watched how He responded
    to those who opposed Him. They observed His value system. It is
    interesting that He never organized a Bible Study group. Nor did
    He teach in a classroom. Instead, He taught from His life, and His
    disciples learned from Him. The most memorable things your stu-
    dents will learn from you will more than likely happen during a
    time when you never planned for them to learn from you at all. Do
    not be afraid to let them observe your life: strengths
    People need to be loved. People need to
    they are loved. You will be amazed at how your
    genuine love impacts the students in your group.
    Let it be evidenced through your verbals and your
    non-verbals. Communicate your love in many creative ways. Let
    them know how much they mean to you. Often the dynamic of a
    great big bear hug will be greater than anything else you can do.
    Give them a picture of what Jesus is like. Allow Him to love your
    students through you. And do not be afraid to give your heart away.
    The Higher Goal
    . So far, we have looked at ways
    that you can be effective with the youth that have
    been entrusted to you. How can we sum up your
    responsibility as a Discipler. It is simply this:
    them a picture of what Jesus is li
    ke. If your goal is
    to get them to perform by completing a bunch of Bible Studies,
    memorizing a bunch of scripture, etc., then you will do whatever it
    takes: manipulate, bribe, etc., to get them to do it. If your goal is get
    them to like you, then you may find it difficult to hold them account-
    able for commitments they have made or sin they are holding on to.
    Neither extreme gives a true picture of what Jesus is like. Jesus
    gives us a picture of one who requires commitment from His follow-
    ers, but who shows mercy when they do not live up to their commit-
    ments. You must also take into consideration this overall goal (
    give them a picture of Jesus
    ), when it comes to things like how you
    respond, what tone you use when you teach, etc. There is rarely a
    ministry opportunity (even the very ministry that takes place in your
    own home!) when you should not ask yourself, “Will I give them a
    picture of what Jesus is like if I do so-and-so?” Simply be an imita-
    tor of Jesus in all that you do, and the Lord will use your life to im-
    pact many.
    probably feels intimidated seated across from an adult, feel uncom-
    fortable or stupid because he could not think of anything to say. Try
    to think of things that she enjoys and would feel comfortable talking
    about. Do not expect to get into some great theological discussion
    when you meet one-on-one with your students. Do not take it per-
    sonally if a student does not spill his whole life’s story by the third
    time you have met. It takes time to earn the role of confidant. This is
    why the relationship part is so important in ministering to the stu-
    dents in your group. Don’t pressure. And by all means do not give
    in to the temptation to wrap up your self-esteem in how someone
    confides in you. Discipling is not about how a student makes you
    feel about
    , but rather how you love and serve
    without ex-
    pecting anything in return.

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